Couples who struggle with infertility will always play with the idea of adopting a child. It begins as a less than ideal secondary option for a problem you have no control over. At some point you begin to accept it as perhaps your only choice. It will taunt you and tease you, every single time you see a newborn in their mothers arms, hear a baby cry at church or watch a giggling toddler at the store.
Some couples never truly give themselves to this method of creating a family because they live in the fear of the unknown. Can I love someone else's child like my own? What if I get a "bad apple" that ends up a sociopath? I can't handle a kid with behavior issues and I won't know what we will get until they grow up!, We could never afford that!....I don't want a child if it's not mine.
My husband and I have two biological children but after our daughter was born in 1999, we were incapable of getting pregnant. We always wanted a houseful of kids. My husband has 5 siblings and I have 8, so a large family was expected. Alas, this was not in our future life plan. We suffered true infertility for over 10 years. We did foster care as a method of trying obtaining a "cheap" adoption from the time the kids were 4 & 6 years old. Never did I feel like any of the foster kids were "mine". I started to think that I could not love other kids like my own. In 2009 we got pregnant and lost the baby in just a few weeks. THIS SHOOK OUR WORLD!
There is a popular misunderstanding about adoption, about 99% of people believe that the first step to adoption is either A.) Hire an adoption agency or B.) Get a home-study done. While both are valid thoughts neither are correct.
The very first step to adoption is to say YES!
After our miscarriage I was DESTROYED! I had tucked the dream of a big family away deep into my soul to protect myself from the pain. I had to hide it so I wouldn't feel anger at God for giving me a burden that was slowly killing me. I loved my children but I "knew" that others were missing. I never before prayed so fervently with a mothers sincerest desire to love another child in my arms. This is the moment that I said YES! Nothing scared me anymore. The dream was too strong now, it had to happen, NO MATTER WHAT!
It is not until you have given yourself whole heartedly to the idea of adopting a child and decided that come hell or high water, you WILL adopt, that things will change completely. Literally the gates of heaven will open up before you and the blessing will poor forth from the Lord. He will line up the planets and open up opportunities that previously never existed. He will make room in your heart to love, bless your home with abundance to feed & clothe, and bring others into your life to help you in times of crisis. This is how HE cares for his children. He changes you, so you can change others. He blesses you, so you can bless others. He saves you, so that you can save others.
All you have to do is say YES!
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